Excuses heard from the Bench

Before I wade into the waters of The Sea of Butt-hurt, I’d like to mention a few things.

Item the First: As I get the rust off of me and begin to write again, I am committing to you, my readers, no less than two article posts per month.

Item the Second: I am also looking at taking this blog in a slightly different direction. The “spirit” of the Brand will always be “Strong for Family”, but the look of the blog is going to be changing over the next year. Maybe even multiple times.

Item the Third: In this “re-branding” I am also including an Instagram and Facebook account and will be sharing short videos (minute of less), pictures, motivation, etc., on those channels. I plan on doing slightly longer (2-5min) YouTube videos as well. Stay tuned.

Okay… all done with the “household” items. Let us get into the meat of this article.


“There’s more to life than…”, fill in the blank.


If you haven’t already come across these kinds of excuses in your journey of improvement and self-betterment, you will eventually. When you are beyond the average two week attempt at a lifestyle change, when you are beyond the two month hit-and-miss plans that other people have attempted, when you are making progress and others aren’t, you will hear that, “There’s more to life than….”, fill in the blank.

This comes from people who feel uncomfortable about your success as they reflect upon their own lack of discipline and passion to improve their own lives. These “well meaning” friends, family members and even random fucking strangers will go out of their way and make it a point to try and “bring you back down to earth”. Their voice of “reason” comes with a “friendly” reminder that there is more to life.

“There is more to life than making money.”

Yes, buttercup, and there is also more to life than struggling to pay your bills. There is more to life than worrying night and day about how you are going to provide for your family. There is more to life than spending sleepless nights trying to figure out how to get under the huge debt load you created.

“There is more to life than working out.”

Yes, cupcake, and there is to life than being miserable from constant sickness and poor health. There is more to life than letting your ailments run your life. There is more to life than sitting helpless and short of breath on the couch as your children or grandchildren beg you to play with them, but you can’t. 

“There is more to life than learning how to defend yourself.”

Yes, your worshipfulness (tribute to Han Solo – he shot first!), and there is more to life than playing the victim. There is more to life than walking around uncertain. There is more to life than hoping that you won’t get mugged on your date downtown. There is more to life than hoping someone else will protect you.

You get the picture.

Resist and reject their poison. It’s the “crabs in a bucket” mentality.


As always, the choice is yours…



Oh snap! I just went all caps.

There is more to life, there is so much more to life when you take the path of owning your shit. When you take control of your life and accept responsibility that you and only you are going to take you where you want to go. There is more to life when you commit to self improvement; when you commit to making yourself better than you were yesterday.

There is more to life.

Only for those that choose the narrow path. Only for the Strong.

The highway of ease is smooth sailing at first, but the rest stops become fewer and fewer, leading you to a hopeless desert with bitter waters. The path of improvement leads you through the wilderness at first, with many rocky and treacherous obstacles to overcome along the journey. But it brings you from one oasis after another as you continue your journey upward and onward, reaping the sweet water rewards of hard work and struggle.

As always, the choice is yours…

Be Strong for you.

Be Strong 4 Family.

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